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oldwomanchan 2011-9-5 10:02 PM

Should I quit my job? My male boss is shagging my enemy

My enemy (female) at work seems to start taking revenge on me, and not just me, but everyone that she doesn't like. Seems she and the boss have only just started (twenty years age difference and the boss is married). Most of us, though feeling angry, don't want to leave because of this as the job itself gives us quite a bit of benefits (allowance, holidays, ...etc.). But it's bit of a pain to have to deal with this mad and insecure woman on a daily basis.

Really feel like working in a landfill -

rallo 2011-9-7 11:48 AM

how did you make enemy in the first place?

way2go 2011-9-7 04:38 PM

[quote]原帖由 [i]oldwomanchan[/i] 於 2011-9-5 10:02 PM 發表 [url=http://www.discuss.com.hk/redirect.php?goto=findpost&pid=302066652&ptid=15271900][img]http://www.discuss.com.hk/images/common/back.gif[/img][/url]
My enemy (female) at work seems to start taking revenge on me, and not just me, but everyone that she doesn't like. Seems she and the boss have only just started (twenty years age difference and the b ... [/quote]

Perhaps its time for you to report the incidents to your firm's Diversity and Inclusivity team, if any. Good luck mate.

oldwomanchan 2011-9-7 11:01 PM

We became enemy because one time the male colleague she was interested in dated me. So she got jealous and said bad things about me in front of that male colleague. Other colleagues became her enemy because she always shifts the blame to other people for something that she herself has done wrong. Backstabbing others while pretending to look innocent - you know, typical of this type of woman.

calculator 2011-9-8 06:46 AM

just let it go, dont make urself noise

jimbo86 2011-9-8 11:08 AM

if u cant hide a video cam inside your bozz's room then plant a listening device there, whenever any moans & groans took event u have it all in record. is going to be fun when bozz wanna to make u walk the plank!
Then u have this trump card and wave it to everybody.

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rallo 2011-9-9 05:41 PM

Honestly, I think those people would soon reveal their true identity to all people around them... Just wait for this moment of realization and your boss will give her what she deserved... Now, you can either wait for the realization or speed things up a bit by setting her up. What you can do is to take advantage of her bad personality (jealousy and shifting blame). This type of person can be easily triggered on any matter... Just remember to trigger her "jealousy" on matters that is related to the person you want to show to (in this case, your boss?). I dont know how to put this in details but it should work out just fine if you think about it. :smile_30:

oldwomanchan 2011-9-10 11:34 PM

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I think the boss knows her true identity (jealous and shifting blame). She feels insecure because she can't do a good job and so she has to be a prostitute in order to secure her position. In fact, I think the boss is extremely cunning as well by getting what he wants and what she is willing to sell. He is in fact manipulating her insecurity. The boss is not a particularly competent person and so he of course is happy to see a slave worshipping him and willing to be fXXXX for free.

Both of them are rubbish.

oldwomanchan 2011-9-10 11:37 PM

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Thanks - I agree -

Quit a job only when you quit it on your own terms, and not because you are affected by unworthwhile people or things. Unworthwhile people and things are everywhere even in any new job.

AHB11 2011-9-14 04:39 AM

there's no enemy in a professional work place
just stay professional, and play well....

oldwomanchan 2011-9-14 11:20 AM

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I see what you mean ... but sometimes it is precisely you yourself being professional while others are not ... and this causes trouble ... others may be jealous of you and then backstab you because they are scared stiff given how incompetent they are.  No matter how professional you are, you have to waste time handling these insecure people.

I agree that there is no enemy in a professional workplace ONLY IF that workplace is truly professional.... But it all depends on your luck whether you have professional colleagues and bosses...

rallo 2011-9-14 02:20 PM

[quote]原帖由 [i]AHB11[/i] 於 2011-9-14 04:39 AM 發表 [url=http://www.discuss.com.hk/redirect.php?goto=findpost&pid=303002212&ptid=15271900][img]http://www.discuss.com.hk/images/common/back.gif[/img][/url]
there's no enemy in a professional work place
just stay professional, and play well.... [/quote] agreed! Definitely the only solution. A lot of people are unable to stay professional to feel comfortable at work place. So they create own circles to build a group of comfort zone to live with and survive.

感情顧問 2011-9-26 09:40 PM

tough for me man~

PacificIslander 2011-10-1 12:47 AM

First, the act that you intuitively said "she is my enemy" is the reason or reflection of how the other side sees or treats you. It is a psychological thing. There is no cure until you see thru this and you change yourselves.

Second, no one will quit because of a colleague. Did your boss treat everyone including you badly? Yeah your boss needs worshipper. Don't your boss know he needs doers like the rest of you? If your boss has no problem on you, why quit?

oldwomanchan 2011-10-2 08:19 AM

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Well said...I've now changed my strategy. Because she wants to gain "face" by taking advantage of her relationship with the boss, she is now looking everywhere for "targets". But since both she and the boss are relatively incompetent at work in terms of expertise and mangement skills, I now try to stay away from any conflict as much as possible in order not to give her a chance to see me as a target for unreasonable attack. As they are both incompetent, it is not difficult to keep their mouths shut by just doing 60% of what I used to do when I was a much more devoted staff before. I won't try to please her (not in my element) but at the same time I won't give her the chance to jump on me.

PacificIslander 2011-10-2 10:23 PM

Your strategy will work. Basically 無招勝有招, you don't act, they can't react.
It is very important at work not to make yourselves as anyone's uncomfortable target.

cat18503 2011-10-5 08:06 AM

We became enemy because one time the male colleague she was interested in dated me. So she got jealous and said bad things about me in front of that male colleague. Other colleagues became her enemy because she always shifts the blame to other people for something that she herself has done wrong. Backstabbing others while pretending to look innocent - you know, typical of this type of woman.

oldwomanchan 2011-10-9 09:12 PM

"無招勝有招, you don't act, they can't react" Very well said.

I have just submitted a proposal that the boss asked me to do. That prostitute wanted to find fault in the document. What they don't know is I have only put in 50% of my usual effort. Yet, as she and boss are so stupid and incompetent, they even thought I did OK. I think I have managed to have some peace and quiet now.  

The prostitute is now having serious rows with other colleagues because she keeps shifting the blame to other people when in fact it is she herself who doesn't know how to give clear instructions or indeed what she actually wants. To help her save face, the boss keeps praising her in front of us for her doing something so simple that any inexperienced junior clerk can do (but she is one of the managers). For those of us who know their dirty secret, we just sit back and watch the two clowns doing circus shows every day. For those who don't know, they are very angry.

Quite an entertainment ... now that I've worked out my strategy to deal with the two rubbish people.
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